Well hello there, fellow readers. Fancy meeting you here. I’m convinced that I will be occupying your little eyes with these r&r posts until more travel posts become available.
I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty okay with that. These posts are extremely fun to write, as I’ve said before, and I always receive an enormous response after them, which means you’re enjoying them too. I like to pretend that we’re close friends, connected by laptops or cellphones and separated by distance. But this brings us closer, right? Right.
Oh would you listen to me ramble ON. Okay, for the focus of today’s r&r post, I’d like to reiterate the importance of independence. This is a topic I am semi-obsessed with, because I think it’s a necessity many people overlook.
I think it can be especially overlooked in relationships. You fall in love, your partner becomes your best friend, and that’s great, but there still needs to be a separation of identity.
Independence is very important in any form of a relationship. I also feel like I write a lot about romantic relationships, because they’re the easiest example I think other people would be able to relate to. I’ll try to forgo that ideology and get straight to the point.
In this life, it’s imperative to be your own person. To have your own hobbies, your own interests, your own life. Sometimes we become so desperate to be liked that we blend in to conform to what would appeal to the majority.
What scares me with this scenario and relationships in particular, is seeing people blindly screw themselves over. Imagine putting everything you have into a relationship, and putting your life on hold for this person. It’s such a gamble, that when a possible breakup could happen, you’ll be left with nothing. You hadn’t been talking to your friends, you hadn’t really been yourself because you were too busy pleasing them.
I’m speaking from experience. I used to put way more effort into my past relationships that nearly none of my ex’s deserved. After I ended a very toxic relationship and moved to Washington, I was honestly reborn.
I became a much stronger version of myself, and I was obsessed with this version that I didn’t know I had been hiding. I’ve had some girls confide in me about toxic or abusive relationships they’ve been in and how they’ve found the courage to leave.
Hearing things like that makes me so proud. But I just want other girls (or whoever) out there to know that you are completely in charge of your own life. No relying on anyone else to make you happy. No one is promising you a bright future, that’s all you. Independence and strength is amazing, and highly underrated.
You’re too beautiful and bright to not allow yourself to be at your best. Lose yourself within yourself; not in him or in her or whoever. Don’t ever lose sight of who you are.
This has been a chloscall.
Until next time, Chloe.